One of my favorite feelings is feeling looked after. In the past, I used to seek this outside of myself. I always was waiting for a white knight to swoop in and save me. Once in a while this worked, but often it didn't. Then I went the opposite way. I told myself that I didn't need anyone to look after me. I was an independent woman. This never felt quite right; it was a denial of my desire to feel looked after. It was a defiant stance as a way to hide from the longing I felt to be looked after.
Then I started asking myself,
“What can I do to feel looked after? How can I look after myself?”
Sometimes I see myself thinking “I just wish someone would come and do this for me. I just want someone to tell me what to do.” So, I ask myself how I want to be looked after. What am I wishing someone else would do or what advice am I wanting them to tell me?
I can still seek out help from others, but I’m not reliant on it in order to feel looked after. When I want to feel looked after, I do something that helps me feel that way. Often that’s taking the time to handle whatever I am wishing someone else would handle for me.