You won’t always feel how you are feeling right now – whether that’s a feeling you like or a feeling you don’t like. Our emotions are always changing. I’ve heard Brooke Castillo say that around 50% of the time you are going to be feeling a negative emotion. That means that the other 50% of the time you aren't. When I’m feeling a negative emotion I remember that I won’t always feel that way. I say to myself “this is the part of the day where I feel ____” and then I continue on with my day, just letting that emotion be there until it isn't. I do the same thing when I am feeling positive emotions, “this is the part of the day where I feel happy/energetic/etc.” and I appreciate that, then I continue on with my day.
Resisting negative emotions is what gets us stuck in them. We start telling ourselves that we shouldn't be feeling how we are feeling because we don’t like it. We try to figure out what’s causing it, usually blaming how we are feeling on an external circumstance that we don’t control. Our mind always wants to fix problems, so we find our mind going in circles over and over thinking about the problem and possible solutions. This keeps us stuck in our negative emotions because we keep replaying in our mind the situation that we don’t want – we keep replaying the problem. The emotions we feel are a result of the thoughts we are thinking. Repeating the same thoughts, means repeating the very emotion we are trying to get rid of.
We try to fix the external problem because we thinking that we are going to continue feeling negative emotion until the problem changes. But really, we are only going to continue feeling negative emotion as long as we are thinking thoughts about the problem that cause us to feel the negative emotion.
To avoid getting stuck in a negative emotion, let yourself feel the negative emotion without trying to immediately fix it. When we are feeling a negative emotion it can feel like it’s going to last forever, but it won’t. It never does and you won’t always feel how you feel right now.