Do you REALLY believe in yourself?

A few weekends ago I was at a business conference, sitting beside a fabulous coach that helps women who spend too much. She was telling me about her business and about where she wanted to go in the next year. I was SO excited for her! She had great ideas and great energy.

Then she asked about my business.

I love what I do. I love helping people transform their relationships, but when it came around to telling her how much money I wanted to bring in through my business I hesitated. I didn't feel the same confidence or excitement around my goal as I had for hers. I didn't feel as certain that I would reach it.

Have you ever felt this in your own life?
Have you ever just known that your friend could have a wonderful relationship, but felt like maybe you couldn't?
Have you ever doubted yourself?

I realized that even though I had told myself that I was really believing in myself and what I was capable of, my actions and my energy weren't lining up with that. I wasn't REALLY believing in myself. Not the same kind of believing that I had for the coach sitting beside me when she talked.

The problem is, we often look for other people to convince us to believe in ourselves. We want other people to do the hard work of believing for us instead of us doing the hard work to believe in ourselves.

So how do we know if we are believing in ourselves?

When we really believe that what we want is possible we start taking action toward it. We start investing in what we want.

You can say that you believe in yourself all day long, but until your actions align with what you are saying, you aren't really believing.

So how do you change that? How do you create that unshakable belief in yourself that has everyone else believing in you too?

You start asking yourself, if I really believed that this was possible for me, what would I do?

And then you take those actions.

For me, that was signing up for business coaching and sales coaching this year. Investing in myself because I believed that what I wanted was possible.

What do you need to start REALLY believing?