The fastest way to change your relationship is to start feeling better.
I know it feels like we need to fix things before we can feel better, but over and over I’ve seen that feeling better first then allows us to make the decisions we need to make a change.
When we are anxious or frustrated, we tend to react. Our body shuts down or we jump into actions like making passive aggressive comments, saying things we don’t mean, or anxiously checking our phone every 5 min. I’ve done all of these things. It only made my relationships worse.
What helps me feel better when I’m feeling anxious, frustrated, and a little bit hopeless, is to focus more on what I want to create than on what’s going wrong.
Knowing where I want to go, or at least what I don’t want, injects some hope. It helps me feel better. From that better feeling place I'm WAY more able to figure out what I need to do to fix things.
So what DO you want?
What’s your dream for your relationship?
How would you feel if you were already in that perfect relationship?