There are too many ups and downs. Too much uncertainty.
You are struggling with:
Knowing how your partner feels, what they are thinking and what you can do to fix your relationship
Feeling anxious and awful, which you know has you coming across as insecure and/or not acting like yourself, but you aren't sure how to get rid of the intense emotions you are having
your partner asking for space. You want to be able to give them space, but you don't see how not talking about the relationship is going to solve anything. Them asking for space has you feeling even less certain about where the relationship is going or how to fix it.
feeling afraid you will lose them. You are having trouble sleeping and eating and just wish you could shut off your mind.
You want the relationship to work, but part of you is sometimes wonders if you need to move on.
To figure out how to make the relationship work.
To know how to talk to your partner that will help actually resolve the issues instead of creating more issues, having them shut down, or it turning into fighting.
You want to stop your mind from racing so that you can approach your relationship logically and solve it from that place (instead of acting out of the feeling of desperation)
A relationship that feels supportive, loving, secure and one that you feel a lot of trust in.
If this sounds like you, I have a 6 week 1-1 coaching program that will help you to:
Find your way back to that confident self so that instead of unintentionally pushing your partner away, you are attracting them back.
Communicate with your partner clearly so that you can better understand each other and resolve the issue.
Feel less desperate and more confident and like yourself so that you aren't engaging in behaviours you can sometimes regret (like checking their phone, messaging them too many times, calling relentlessly, showing up at places they may happen to be at...not speaking from experience or anything ;-) ;-).
Figure out what to do to create that relationship that you really want. One where you feel supported, loved and seen.
You deserve an incredible relationship and you can have that. Whether it be with the person you are currently in a relationship with or someone new. I want you to know that there is nothing wrong with you, you deserve to be loved in the way you need to be loved, and achieving that in a relationship is so possible for you.
Society teaches us that if there are any issues in a relationship, then we are a failure. What often gets in the way of people having amazing relationships is that we were not giving examples of what love really is. You may have grown up wth a alcoholic parent or co-dependencies that keeps you from creating the relationship you really want.
In every area of life, trying harder and putting in the work really pays off. It helps you achieve more and be successful but in relationships this can really backfire and be the very thing causing the turmoil. The harder you try, the worse the relationship gets! If you have ever felt that, you are in the right place.
This program is for you if:
You know that a good relationship starts with a good relationship with you but don’t know how to get there.
You are open minded and willing to try new things that you haven’t tried before.
You need to fix this now and can’t keep living in the ups and downs and uncertainty in your relationship. You feel like you are losing yourself and can’t tell if the problem is them or you.
You are willing to do the hard work in order to get the relationship you want.
Deep down you know you can create the relationship you want and just need a little help. You've done personal development/self help before.
You will walk away with:
A process for how to solve your issues so that you don’t talk about them over and over without getting anywhere.
Clarity on what you need and want so that you can come to the relationship with confidence.
A strategy to quiet your mind, help you feel better, and able to approach any issues in your relationship logically.
A self coaching technique that takes you out of confusion and panic and helps you show up as your true self.
The knowledge, the support, and the guidance to create the relationship you want and deserve!
We work together through 6 weekly 60 minute coaching sessions where I will give you individual guidance for your specific situation. This is not working through worksheets, or a module based course. We work on completely shifting how you are approaching relationships. After each call, you will start to see how you are thinking different, feeling differently and your partner and the people around you will notice that something has changed.
You don’t have to continue living your life feeling unloved, uncertain about where you stand in your relationship, like you are losing yourself, and not feeling you can create that relationship that you really want.